You know how to code your emotional reactions. Psychiatrist David Viscott describes how we talk about our emotions.  Anger can be expressed as irritated, parched, irritated, irritated, angry or burned. Fear can be expressed as a fear, boring, nervous, worried, worried, uncertain, standing or always shakes. Being is a slogan that is used to describe all kinds of feelings without admitting many; “Feeling hurt” is a vague word we use to avoid taking responsibility for what we say. Make sure you code your emotional reactions to your spouse so you can think about not reacting. When people are in conflict, if they do not argue with logic, they are in a situation of disagreement. Some people might not be in the argument capacity to understand an argument and often not evaluate the argument. What is important in this research is that it indicates that our emotional experiences are strongly influenced by our personal history. The personal part of our reaction is that we characterize what they do. In the case above, your spouse`s action is not described (he has not done what he/she should do), it is characterized by how he feels to you; He feels that they are being mistreated.
Someone who doesn`t do what he`s supposed to do has a personal meaning to you. Do you understand the difference between conflict and disagreement? If you characterize an angry (terrible, hurtful, etc.) something your spouse has done, he is likely to react to you, that is to say to have a personal change of scenery of the situation. You`re both in conflict. Whatever the problem, the conflict now revolves around how you feel toward each other (and your relationship) and the negative thoughts you have on each other, based on both personal history and the current situation. The problem is that he is a “Shirker” and she is on one of his “emotional binges”. It is now a conflict over who is right, who has violated the other, who is the worst spouse – it will not be negotiated. We have often seen that the words conflict and disagreement are used in a synonymous way. Here`s some of what`s different and why it`s important.
For there to be conflict, the parties must first realize and understand that each party has opposing ideas. Interaction between the parties is necessary. Conflicts, unlike disagreements, are considered unhealthy and dysfunctional competition. These include mistrust, hostility, lack or loss of affinity and mistrust. Conflicts arise when needs are not met or when one group or person is considered an obstacle to the goals of another group or person.